It has been so long since my last post and I am so sorry about that – but with my new addition Miss Harper Mae, my adorable now 7 week-old baby girl I have been inspired to re start my posts. And as Miss Harper has inspired me to get back into gear I thought I would dedicate this first one to her – about all the highs and lows of those first few weeks as a brand new first time mum (if I can keep my puffy eyes open long enough to do so).
As I sit down to write this I’m wondering how long the silence will last – I’m rocking her bassinet with my right foot to the tune of another theme song from ABC Kids, in the hopes to keep her settled long enough to accomplish this task.. (so far – only one dummy spit) and I cant help but think how much my life has changed – there is seriously no amount of wisdom that can be given to you that will prepare you for what you are in for – this crazy ,beautiful, challenging and exhausting journey that is motherhood! This post isn’t to tell you what to do, but more to share my journey so far in hopes to share my support to new and expecting mums – because if there is one thing that I have learnt in my short 7 weeks in this new role I have learnt, is that support from others is key to keeping some sanity in your life!
After a relatively short labor (at least thats what I was told – felt like a lifetime at the time) – a total of 4.5 hours with no drugs (what was I thinking) I found a totally new respect for the body of a women, blown away by what we can endure and how quickly such intense pain can disappear after they put that little bundle on your chest. But then it hit me, I’m a mum – this baby is mine and I have no effing idea what to do to keep her alive, all I could picture were those crisp, unopened parenting books I had collected during my pregnancy yet had neglected to read! After a slightly longer stay in hospital, it was our time to go home and I couldn’t be any more stressed – the amount of pressure I put on myself to keep the tears inside as I said farewell to the beautiful midwifes and Drs that had looked after me and Miss Harps over those 7 days all came crashing down as we rolled up into our driveway – I was so terrified to be on our own, two adults who had no clue how to take care of such a precious little person. I couldn’t stop the tears from rolling down my cheeks – ‘what if I’m doing it wrong’ – ‘is she too hot’ – ‘is she eating enough’ – ‘is she eating too much’ ??? seriously, the self doubt I put on myself was crazy.
I knew sleep deprivation had well and truely set in when I asked my beautiful partner to bring me home a drink of Sprite as I had really been craving it all day long. When he returned home with shopping bags in tow and proceeded to pull out a bottle of Pepsi with a proud smile because he had evently “scored a bargain” on the hideous beverage he was soon met with the inconsolable whaling of a women who had clearly lost her mind. I knew then that I needed to get a grip on my new reality and sort out how I was going to make this work for me and these are some of the recourses and methods I have found that have worked for me..
Family – Having a supportive family or close family member has been key. I am so blessed to have such a caring and generous mum. From her walking Harper around in her pram all day while I completed a day of makeup’s just one week after at being at home – to keeping her phone bedside to console me via text at all hours of the night during feeding when I thought I was the only person who had ever been that tired.
Chiropractor – I know this is a debatable subject with some parents, but when your baby is screaming all day and night and projectile spewing up everything you feed her you will try anything to make a difference and for us I truely believe this has been a crucial part in regaining sanity. She has now been to see the beautiful Dr Natasha at Todds Chiropractic four times and I belive this has made a world of difference. Highly recommend giving it a try! *Let me know if you want a more detailed post on her treatment and course of probiotics for gut health
Local support – There are so many local resources that offer amazing help to first time parents (and second and third time also I assume) The ongoing support from our maternal health nurse has been so reassuring – just knowing that there is someone that you can turn to and who is helping to make sure your child is reaching all their milestones is such peace of mind. Not to mention the 24hour Maternal Child Health hotline (Ph – 13 22 29 ) which I recommend taking full advantage of – because when its 1am and your partner is sleeping soundly before heading off to work and your baby won’t stop crying – or she’s just started projectile spewing or what ever it might be – these beautiful midwifes on call are right there to tell you its all going to be OK! And trust me ladies, it will be.
Self love – This is what I think has been the number one point. Im not talking just taking time to have a relaxing bubble bath (although I’m not saying thats not going to help either) I’m talking about making sure you take the time – even if its just 10minutes during their nap – or zoning out the crying long enough to think out your next move, you have your beautiful baby – now what are you going to aspire to next. I’m not expecting to accomplish anything huge straight away, but just having those goals in my head and writing them down and taking those few minutes each day thinking about them is helping me to adjust to this wild life as a mum and giving me a clearer vision of how I hope to progress moving forward. Not to mention making sure we head outdoors each day and go for a stroll – even if it is just to the corner store to buy a tub of ice cream because you’re an emotional eater haha (promise thats only happened once..) but the outdoors and fresh air does wonders – and I have found is a great way to settle the little one and give you a great chance to think up those future goals for yourself!
Well I’m sure any of you reading this are either doing so while feeding your own little one – or pacing around uncomfortably, excepting the arrival of your own bundle. Either way – I hope you know that you are not alone and this amazing job of being a mum is totally all worth it!
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